Being in the here and now; a bittersweet paradox

In counselling, we often approach our work from a place of trying to understanding and accept the here and now experience. But being truly present can be a lot harder than it sounds - what does it mean, and how do we know we are doing it? Last weekend, I spent 3 days walking in… Continue reading Being in the here and now; a bittersweet paradox

Duality: Death Cafes during a global pandemic

Being and nothingness Nothingness lies coiled in the heart of being - like a worm.- Jean-Paul Sartre, 'Being and Nothingness' Death Cafes are led by the group. There is no theme nor agenda, though events can be aimed at particular groups or audiences to ensure inclusivity and accessibility. This means that no two Death Cafes… Continue reading Duality: Death Cafes during a global pandemic

An encounter

I read their movements as startled; accidentally ambling into the path of a towering unknown. I knelt. Assumed they would be assessing me as a threat. We looked at each other. I held back my curiosity - desire to be closer - excited eagerness. Silent knowing that I was walking through their field. The pace… Continue reading An encounter

Disconnection and desperation

The individual sacrifices and efforts for our collective wellbeing are bringing out some beautiful opportunities for creativity, compassion and solidarity. And hopefully a stronger, more fair, more cooperative society will result. Alongside that, there is also acute pain and trauma stemming from the disconnection. This includes being unable to be with the people we love… Continue reading Disconnection and desperation

Facing Death – How creativity can reduce the glare

In the therapy room, there are many ways we can use creativity to explore death and dying. If we take Irvin Yalom’s analogy of “staring at the sun” it can feel too painful, or even be impossible to directly look at or fully comprehend our own mortality. Viewing and exploring thoughts, feelings and meaning associated with death through a creative medium can be a way of reducing the glare and perhaps even providing opportunity for greater insight.

Let’s talk about death and dying

That's just what we did today at our first Faversham Death Café. Tea, cake and conversation In a cosy wooden cabin at the welcoming Abbey Physic Community Garden, with a plentiful supply of tea, delicious homemade vegan cake and an unexpected abundance of snacks, a group a strangers gathered and talked about death and dying.… Continue reading Let’s talk about death and dying

What’s your internal weather report?

For the past few days, whilst driving I've noticed the beautiful contrast of the clouds against bright blue sky. I wanted to photograph them to share with you, along with a mindfulness technique I was introduced to by Simone at Sati Yoga; a way of bringing your attention to how you are feeling right now,… Continue reading What’s your internal weather report?